Thursday, November 29, 2007

Guest Blogger - Jillian

Hi. It would seem that introductions might be in order, considering I don't really know you all. My name is Jillian and I'm an actor on a Sci-Fi series filmed in Vancouver, B.C. I used to do daytime drama in Los Angeles, but they killed off my character (after giving me a love interest and everything) to increase ratings. I have to admit that the new gig is pretty nice. So, I'm not complaining at all.

I've also found a lot of kindred spirits, or women who want to be, around my new home. When I started the "Sexual Suffragettes" I had no idea the group would grow so quickly. We've got three of them meeting in and around the city now. But I guess I shouldn't be surprised. Women want the freedom to be sexual beings without seeing themselves as defective and others seeing them as having loose morals.

You all get that right? It's kind of like the difference between erotica and erotic romance. I hear a lot of people have a hard time defining it, or comprehending the distinction. I'm not one of them. It's the difference between sex for the sake of sex and sex as a natural progression of emotion. You know? Living as a sexual being means that sometimes you are going to have both, but being a woman means that the emotional component makes sex more satisfying.

That's true for men too, by the way. Locker room humor aside, studies have shown that men in a committed sexual relationship tend to be more content and even productive.

That doesn't mean that most men and women, for that matter, have no hang-ups when it comes to the commitment part. Giving yourself to another person, promising a lifetime - that's not an easy thing to do. Trust me, I know. In fact, it's not something I *ever* planned to do.

So, how did I end up starring in a romance novel? Well, that's Lucy's story to tell and she does it well, if I do say so myself, in DEAL WITH THIS. Hope you read it!


Kate Davies said...

Hey, Jillian!

Thanks for posting on my blog. So nice of Lucy to send you my way! :)

And what a great topic to write on. I agree with you -- the deeper emotional component is why I prefer erotic romance to erotica. And I'm so glad that romance publishers are becoming more open to a wide range of sexuality in romance books, from sweet to extremely hot. Something for everyone!

Amy said...

Hi Jillian, I am in the process of reading your story right now. All I can say is You and Alan have some HOT HOT Chemestry going on!

tara said...

Hi Kate!!
Hi Jillian!!
What a great post!!
I have to say I love romance!! As long as the people love each other and it has a HEA, I am enjoying it! Intrigue, paranormal, humor, horror, hot lovin...whatever the genre I will give it a try and read it!! I find it important that I care about the characters and their relationship. So my favorites are books that have a great story but also have great heat!!

Lucy Monroe said...
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Special Guest said...

Kate...definitely. :)

Amy...oh, man, hot? That guy is scorching. Makes my blood pressure rise and not because he irritates me. ;-)

Tara...I didn't believe in happy endings until Amanda hooked up with Simon. They really made me rethink my outlook on relationships. Alan isn't too bad a job either. :)

Stacy~ said...

I admit I love the HOT stuff, but it has to be in the context of a romance, so definitely erotic romance is the way to go. The emotional connection is really what makes it so hot; otherwise it's just a random encounter that leaves me cold.

I like that women's fantasies are being explored and accepted by writers and publishers - exploring one's own sexuality in a positive, loving relationship is definitely a very good thing ;)